End of Life Planning is an act of Love for Self and Others
The last great human adventure is death. We all die; there is no getting around it. Yet, we resist this notion and don’t prepare well for this significant rite of passage event.
End of Life Planning is a pretty broad subject. Wills, Advanced Directives, and Estate Planning are just some of the components.
Having an end of life plan in place will:
1. Ensure your life tribute matches your uniqueness, in the way you feel you deserve. read more
2. Relieve anxiety, hardship and strain on those who will be carrying out your wishes. read more
3. Provide an opportunity to ensure your loved ones know the depth of your love and appreciation for them. read more
4. Help you explore financial options that keeps your money in your control and that can be adjusted for inflation or other expenses that may not be covered in a pre-plan with a funeral home. read more
1. Ensure your life tribute matches your uniqueness, in the way you feel you deserve.
End of life planning can capture your unique life in a tribute that if fitting with the nature of who you are, and how you lived your life. Details about your legacy, like what is important to you and why it has value for you can also be explored and communicated with others.
Since it is, generally speaking, legal in most jurisdictions for families to act as their own funeral director and to transport the body of the deceased, a lot more options can be imagined for how your end of life tribute could be expressed and experienced by those that gather for your final send off.
2. Relieve anxiety, hardship and strain on those who will be carrying out your wishes.
For those left behind, trying to figure out what to do to truly honour your life, while they are in the grip of grief, is not the best time to pull together an event that captures the essence of your unique life.
In fact, if you think in terms of wedding planning, or planning for other events like birthdays or holidays, a significant amount of time goes into planning, measured in years, months or weeks. A typical funeral is planned in a compressed time frame, usually within days.
Your clear instructions remove a lot of the guesswork for others. Many have reported how grateful they were that their parent or loved one made their plans specific, right down to the food and flowers that needed to be ordered.
This made it really easy to pull out the plan and make it happen without a lot of thought. They were able to trust it was exactly what they wanted and how they wanted it.
Certainly in the planning, making room to include meaningful contributions from your loved ones is valuable for them, as their way to honour you and to acknowledge their loss which will help them adjust to life without you.
3. Provide an opportunity to ensure your loved ones know the depth of your love and appreciation for them.
End of Life planning can include specific messages you want to deliver to others about how much you value them and what their impact on your life or companionship has meant to you.
Healthy discussions and decision making involving you and your loved ones are often a result of good end of life planning. It just makes sense.
4. Help you explore financial options that keeps your money in your control and that can be adjusted for inflation or other expenses that may not be covered in a pre-plan with a funeral home.
Handing money over to strangers to do something for you when you are guaranteed not to be around to make sure they did it the way you wanted, can be a bit stressful when its time to sign the contract. However, for some, pre-arrangement planning with a funeral home provides comfort and a certain amount of predictability as to how the event will unfold.
If a pre-arrangement plan contract that you pay upfront to a funeral home long before it is needed is important to you, be sure to make inquiries as to how the contract applies if you move or die abroad and whether or not your plan will cover certain procedures or transportation fees. To help you with more questions, check with you local provincial government such as Access Nova Scotia.
You may also want to ask what will happen if the funeral home goes out of business or is merged with another company. How will your investment be protected? Will there be additional expenses at your time of need if this was to occur twenty or more years down the road?
It is not uncommon to feel as though a burden has been lifted when you confront your feelings about death after you get your plans in writing.
Talking about death isn’t going to kill you, jinx you, or bring it on any sooner. What it has the potential to do is provide you with an opportunity to gather your loved ones even closer and address any anxiety you may be feeling.
End of Life planning now can help you take control of your life and make peace with dying, so you can get on with living your life to the fullest checking off those items on your bucket list!
End of Life planning sessions can be arranged in person, on the phone or by skype. Please contact me for more information.